サイモンとマルティナさんのインスタグラム動画 - (サイモンとマルティナInstagram)「In the second part of my video on Nonviolent Communication, on my channel @simonsbookclub, I talk about the different steps of the NVC process: 1. Observe without judgment, 2. Express feelings, emotions, and sensation - rather than thoughts - based on what we observed, 3. Express what needs or values we have - rather than preferences or specific actions - that caused those feeling, and 4. Requesting concrete actions that would enrich life, without demanding In this clip here, I’m talking about steps 2 and 3. The idea that Nonviolent Communication offers is that people’s actions can be a stimulus, but they’re never the cause, of what we feel. Many of us, from a young age, have been taught that we have to be responsible for our parents’ emotions, and we’ve internalized that to think that we are responsible for the emotions of others, and that they’re responsible for our emotions as well. When, really, we are all responsible for our own emotional state. If we feel angered by what someone has said or done, we might also notice all of the other factors that play into our reaction. Did we sleep well the night before? Are we hungry? Did we get stuck in traffic? Is our back hurting more than usual? Did one of our coworkers mess up a project we’re working on? All of these factors we bring to the table, and so when someone says something, and we feel angry afterwards, it’s not their fault for saying it - our reactions are often the result of this cocktail of circumstances. While, on other days, when you’ve had a good night’s sleep, when you had a delicious lunch, when you found a new route to work that cuts your travel time in half, your back feels loose and pain free, and your team came together to deliver an awesome project, and you’re having a great day overall, then that very same thing someone said that would have made you angry in the first situation won’t bother you in the second. I talk about this a lot more in part 2 of the video I did on Nonviolent Communication. Link in the bio. I’d love for you to give it a watch ❤️ #nonviolentcommunication #emotions #communication」11月15日 19時48分