Natasha Yiのインスタグラム(natashayi) - 7月30日 23時43分
I wrote this same caption a few days ago, but the post had to get removed. 😕 I’ll talk about why later. Many of you wrote such an incredible response. I’m hoping you can take the time to write it again here so the person asking for our help can read thru them all. Sorry to ask you to rewrite it, but I hope that you do. I will be reading every single comment. Here it is again: 📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝
I received an email from someone who asked for my help. I told him my friends here always have great insight, so he allowed me to bring this to you for your opinions. Here’s his letter: 📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝📝
I’ve been dating this girl for 3 years. I love her very much. When I was out of town for work for a few days, she looked through my stuff and saw pictures of me and my ex. Most were just normal photos, some of them involved more than casual pix...if you know what I mean. 😉 When I returned, my gf went off on me asking me why I still have photos of my ex. This really pisses me off for two reasons. One, she had no right to dig through my stuff just looking for secrets about me. Two, she’s now demanding that I get rid of all the photos. I’m not going to do that. My ex died in a car accident❗️💔 I’m not just going to erase her from my memory. My current gf knew my relationship would not have been over if it wasn’t for that accident and she accepted that. Now she’s demanding I get rid of the photos as if I’m holding out hope that we’ll get back together. It’s ridiculous! I don’t know what to do moving forward. Help me! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 💁🏻♀️ Have you ever been through this or something similar❓ What are your opinions. To be honest, I’m really torn on this one so I’m happy he’s open to hearing your thoughts on this. 💁🏻♀️ (Thx to my good friend @brianbobila 📸 & my A team 📹 for this fun shoot!)
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tyson_blair
The situation is more unique in this case because the ex passed away and that ended that previous relationship. I don’t think that it should matter that you have photos from your life with her and to remember an individual you loved. However, I would try to take more of a middle ground when discussing with your current partner.
Actually sit down and have an honest conversation with your significant other with the goal of understanding where she is coming from and what truly is bothering her. Is it a specific picture(s)? Does she think you are looking at them too often, that you are not moving on and living in the past? Does she feel like you are not providing enough space in your heart for her to find and build a home there? Get down to the nitty gritty of what is causing her demands. When we get upset we tend to first lean toward extreme action before we have time to think things through and are willing to admit to the real reason we are upset. Both sides, though, have to be open to calmly and honestly discuss the issue and to have the other persons feelings in mind. According to what I have been told, you laid the cards out on the table at the beginning, so she knew what you had been through and how much you cared about your ex and that you planned on spending your life with her. On the other hand, you have to be willing to step back and point the finger at yourself and be brutally honest, and then if you find yourself still completely in the right, you do still have to decide what are you willing to do to make it better, if you truly want to make it work. Hopefully, she is willing to do the same as well because that’s the only way it really works.
kabido70
Bonjour..! Moi j'ai vécu le même scénario que toi..car mon Ex avait été tué affreusement par un connard de Requin Bouledogue ..! Et, une grande '' Médium '' m'a affirmé 3 mois après le drame, que pendant son supplice vers la mort...mon Ex a crié très fort mon Prénom ...et ses dernières pensées étaient uniquement pour moi..! Et malheureusement.. Moi j'étais à 850 kms de cette plage maudite..! Aussi , quand ma nouvelle '' petite amie '' a vue le poster de mon Ex et Moi dans un joli cadre/tableau dans mon salon...Elle m'a demandé de l'enlever...! Je lui ai répondu ceci: { tu prends tes cliques et tes claques...et tu te casses...! } et j'ai rajouté '' Une de perdue...et 10 Retrouvé ''...! Elle m'a quitté ...et 15 jours plus tard Elle est Revenue sans plus jamais me parler de ce poster..!!! Et aujourd'hui, j'ai fait transformer la photo en Lithographie... !!!😁🌷💖
sellio7
Leaving my comment again ( I do hope you share why previous post got deleted!) Okay it’s wrong that she looked through your stuff. Privacy needs to be respected even between couples. I’d need to know more about how she discovered these photos. You aren’t free and clear though. Hanging on to photos from previous relationships isn’t cool. I’d delete all photos and if this ex meant that much to me. I’d honour her by getting one photo printed off. Then put that pic in public. You will always have the memories so deleting the photos shouldn’t be that big a deal. By the way @natashayi the email from the guy has changed since you last posted. I gotta ask which one is the real email. This version seems to tilt it more for the guy being right. The last (deleted) one was more neutral. 😎👍👌
bradhimmel
I kinda like your legs :) ! Now, to put an end to this nonsense, if you & I were together for 3 years, intimate, involved and monogamous, I could assure you their wouldn’t be any pictures of ANY women in my life or on any of my personal property ! I would imagine that would be having respect for your significant other ! And I would hope the feeling is mutual ! But hey, whatever ! Why invest in a fake relationship or one that isn’t real ?
chinoyhappens
In my opinion, the dirty pics need to leave, because then the current girl feels he may be fantasizing of the ex while they are being intimate. He’s not ready to love her the way he does the ex. He will have to come to terms to let go and make new memories with his current lady in order for their relationship to move forward. Maybe they should stop being intimate and see if they have more in common in regards to morals and life goals.
decenacatherine
@thomas_the_tank87 ..Honesty as always! They should talk about it if he is torn because of that situation..It is always great feeling to be with someone with solid relationship that your into that person.. No secrets,past holding memories nor comparison statement..being with someone for a long time is an investment of life.. so if he is not ready.. then better not to start with new one..
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