イングリッド・ニールセンのインスタグラム(ingridnilsen) - 7月30日 04時08分

The idea that anger is a signal for change is one I learned from reading Harriet Lerner's book The Dance of Anger. It forever changed the way I approach confrontation.

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living1free I absolutely relate with your view and feelings on confrontation 100%. I am getting better at confronting in more appropriate ways and sooner after an incident occurred, like when my sister’s friend (who was camping with us) deciding to turn vicious by snapping at me for no reason because his misunderstanding was completely misplaced as it usually is and it twisted my stomach in knots because I was trying to help pack up the campsite because we were running behind schedule to check out. I ended up messaging my sister to clear the air because I felt like she sided with him the way they froze me out. It turned out fine and she saw my reasoning and I’m assuming got on to him for being nasty for no reason. There was also an instance last month when I finally confronted the demons of my past by messaging my ex about the reason I stopped seeing him 3+ years ago because I felt he didn’t respect me and was trying to rush/force himself on me. I also explained that I just wasn’t in the right head space for a relationship and didn’t feel the same way as him. All he said was thank you for the closure, though he didn’t comment on the parts where I told him how I felt he was forcing himself on me. Yet I still felt like I set myself free by finally confronting him, even if it was only in message format. Because of confronting those hidden demons that I had only confessed to my current boyfriend of 2+ years, I am able to finally let go of those night terrors fully.

katprillo I love this! It reminded me of a situation I was in this year with my son’s principle and some other classmates parents. And I had to stand up and advocate, even though I felt we were doing everything right. But I realized it was because I knew my son was getting above and beyond services for his exceptionalities, that I realized this confrontation was one I had to face and stand up for my son and my family’s efforts. I definitely still cried during that meeting but I spoke about the perceived stigma my child was facing and it turned into not just a happy conclusion but a better understanding between all parties. Bonding in fact. Confrontation can bring things to the forefront that were invisible before. Thank you for reminding me of this moment. And for those of us afraid of it : how confrontation can be rewarding

jwotsit1990 This was perfect timing for me, I had something yesterday which was confrontation with a family member who I live with, I was told I think about my feelings too much. But I also learnt how I need to move forward because in the past I haven’t wanted to advocate for myself and push it to one side but resentment builds and builds and is not helpful, in the moment or shortly after is so much more productive way of getting things aired and this video has really helped thank you! I think I have a connection with confrontation having to be shouting and a horrible exchange but it doesn’t have to be

april121716 I’ve made so many mistakes in not advocating for myself. It’s a huge problem I have. I had a situation at work and I was being confronted about something and it should’ve been the other way around.I trapped myself there balling my eyes out because I refused to go out back and be alone. And of course it was time for me to leave and someone was waiting outside for me which made me take even longer to get outside...because I completely stopped what I was doing.

jojobah This was really lovely to sit down and listen to. I get really overwhelmed when it comes to confrontation and have always tried to avoid it. I tend to let anxiety creep in and stop me from standing up for what I’m trying to say for myself. I loved how you brought up advocating for yourself in particular . It clicked in my head that I’ve never had a problem standing up for someone else, just for myself. Thank you for this ❤️❤️ it’s been really insightful

pretty_sleeper101 can u talk about that toxic masculinity/fake strength topic and how you learned to not feel weak when u cry and everything? i would really love to hear your point of view on that... also, identifying emotions and knowing exactly what they are? thank u so much for everything, love this series and relate soo much, all the best to u Ingrid😊💖💖

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