Ashley Jamesさんのインスタグラム写真 - (Ashley JamesInstagram)「Thanks to my colleague Boris for yesterday's announcement... I can't wait to get out of lockdown! Now let me tackle the next big topic... RED FLAGS. 💁🏼‍♀️🚩 One of the things I get a lot in my DMs, are people saying: "he showed no red flags and he still cheated on me". Or "I looked out for red flags and couldn't find any and he left me, what did I do wrong?" So here's the thing... You don't just need to watch for red flags in the first few weeks or months. People are always on their best behaviour at the beginning. I know I am! Red flags can crop up at any time, and when they do you have to put your love for yourself before your love for them. Red flags don't always have to mean the end, but they do mean you need to communicate what the issue is and why you won't tolerate it in a relationship. Then you either move forward or apart depending on how that conversation goes... But don't be gaslight or let the issue be brushed under the carpet. Ignoring red flags now will only cause more heartache later. Secondly, red flags aren't fool proof things to stop you being hurt. Sadly, it's usually always hurtful walking away from someone when there's feelings there - but they are essential to look out for as they protect you from staying longer with the wrong person. Remember, love yourself more even when it's tempting to stay. And finally, YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. You aren't a mind reader and you couldn't possibly know red flags in advance or if you are compatible. It's hurtful when someone decides you aren't right for them, and maybe confusing if they told you how much they liked you at the beginning - but we've all been there. We get really excited about potential at the beginning, and then change our minds as we get to know them. It's not about doing anything wrong - know this, because it's so important you stay yourself so you give the next person the chance to get to know you and figuring out if you're right for each other. They just figured out you weren't compatible before you did. Love yourself enough to walk away, you do not need to beg anyone to stay. So remember: stay alert, watch out for red flags, and save yourself. Thank you and good night. 💘」2月24日 5時23分