マット・マクゴリーさんのインスタグラム写真 - (マット・マクゴリーInstagram)「Repost from @wetheurban⁠⠀ •⁠⠀ Many of us believe that sharing our worries, frustrations, and stories of trauma and conflict is the way to build intimate relationships. Sometimes a good venting session can feel really good for both people. We can leave these interactions thinking “this is what closeness feels like”. Other times, one person ends up feeling overwhelmed or used and unsure how to bring it up. ⁣⁠⠀ ⁣⁠⠀ What if we asked each other for permission before dumping our stuff onto each other? What if closeness doesn’t have to mean owing anyone our emotional labour? We deserve relationships where empathy and support flow in both directions. ⁣⁠⠀ ⁣⁠⠀ Checking in first turns the simple act of listening into a mutual experience of care and respect. Boundaries allow us to connect *more* deeply with each other, not less. When you are ready to rant or share something heavy with someone, ensure that you are venting and not dumping. ⁣⁠⠀ ⁣⁠⠀ Check in with them. Do they have the capacity to be present with you in this right now? Respect their “yes” as much as you respect their “no”. ⁣⁠⠀ words via: @jordanpickellcounselling」12月22日 1時34分