アンドレア・フエンテスさんのインスタグラム写真 - (アンドレア・フエンテスInstagram)「#mondaymotivation with @ermakova_anastasia83 “When perfectionism doesn’t help you” I have always been a perfectionist so I understand the pros and cons, but like Buda said, the wise path, is the middle one. All the extremes can be harmful if they are not guided with positive energy. If you are a perfectionist it can be very useful to do things well. You are demanding and want to work hard for a good result. The problem only comes when you are not happy with excellence and you only find happiness with perfection. Why? Because perfection is an idealistic goal. Idealistic means it’s only possible in the ideas, not in the reality. Perfection can never be reached, because everything can always be better. If you look only for perfection, you are condemned to chronic in-satisfaction. How to be happy when you are a perfectionist? You have to accept the difference between the ideal and the real world. Better explained: the problem with too perfectionist people is the PATIENCE and the TRUST. I’ve been there, in this impossible perfection-world and it only leads to frustration. The answer? Here it is: NO EXPECTATIONS. Trust your own wisdom, and trust life. Learn to be a beginner in all the challenges in life. Like when a kid discovers something for the first time. Enthusiasm for learning! The majority of perfectionist people, you like it or not, are TOO CENTERED IN YOURSELF and your results. Difficult to admit, I know, but if you want to go out of this circle, try to focus on the things you are going through without being involved as a main character. What you are learning, what is the main teaching of this life lesson. Then when you are “out of this movie” and you are an observer instead of a protagonist, you start enjoying the process. Think about it, you will realize that is much easier like this, enjoying to be a beginner, no judgement to anything, just an open mind to learn and improve. Frustration only puts you more distant from perfection, so you are actually acting against your own goal! Socrates, one of the wisest persons in history said once: the only thing I know is I don’t know anything. Have a happy no-10-points week! 😘」11月26日 5時29分